We all want to win in the game of life. But how do we go about not only winning, but thriving! There are some daily habits that will help you achieve the ability to thrive in a chaotic world.
You can start by repeating positive affirmations to yourself every morning. Things like:
“I’m popular, I’m happy, I’m earning the income I want.
Why do this? It sounds silly.
It may feel uncomfortable when you start out, but the level of our self-worth depends on how good we feel about ourselves and our circumstances.
Horrible situations arise in our lives. Sometimes it can feel like all we’re doing is walking out of one problem pile straight into the next. This can weigh us down mentally and emotionally. We need to fight back against the piles of life in a positive manner to build up our sense of self-worth and thrive!
When we build ourselves up, we naturally, subconsciously telepath our self-worth to others we encounter. This happens automatically. We become more attractive to be around because of the positivity and self-confidence we exude in our personal aura. Influencing people and making friends turns into a science through real techniques and proven practices that work.
By doing these self-affirmations every morning—and throughout the day as time and activity allow—you create opportunity, you build value in your own personal brand, and you draw others to you. Some other conscious things you can do to facilitate these natural occurrences are:
Be genuinely interested in others
You draw others to you, and make far more friends, by becoming truly interested in other people. Being open and genuinely interested makes you attractive to spend time with.
People are all ego-centric and are most interested in themselves. By you also being interested in them makes you more attractive. The key is to make your interest genuine. This may be hard to do when you realize they may not share your same enthusiasm for putting others first.
Usually people enjoy spending time with others who listen to them. That’s called human nature. Extend yourself a little by giving them what they want: Time and opportunity to talk about themselves.
If you want to get better at influencing people and making friends – you must put yourself out there for others first. This requires effort; your time, energy, selflessness and thoughtfulness. There are no short cuts – no magic bullets – but if you truly want it and you genuinely seek it, you will find it and it will work for you.
Make a good first impression
Smile- There are few things more powerful than a smile. Be positive, upbeat and energetic. Once again, it takes more energy, but it’s a simple technique to draw people toward you.
Remember names
The sweetest sound in all of language is the sound of our own name. The average person cares more about his or her own name than all the other names on earth put together. When you call someone by their name, speaking it confidently and easily, you pay them a very nice and effective compliment.
Forget their name—or worse mispronounce their name—and you will learn quickly how the exact opposite will be true. When you forget or mispronounce someone’s name you have just effectively shown you don’t even care enough about them to learn their name and say it correctly!
If you need to, write the name down. Write it phonetically if you have to and practice saying it right. This extra work will pay dividends down the line.
Become a good conversationalist
Read current events, learn about what others you want to communicate with are interested in. Have something interesting to say; something of value to contribute to a conversation. If you don’t have a ready comment, just be a really good listener and ask questions about something they just said to show interest and to keep them talking.
Being a good listener encourages others to talk about themselves and their interests!
Interest people by talking about their interests
All great Leaders know this one already. The best road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things they treasure most. Keep in mind the saying, “Talk to people about themselves – and they will listen for hours.”
Make others feel important to you – and do it sincerely
If you do the previous five steps well, you have already made the other person feel important. But through practice and opportunity—including practicing the art of genuineness—takes time and effort. Perfect it and you will never struggle with self-esteem or acceptance issues ever again.
